I haven’t had the chance to update this website because I’ve been really busy with work and my new passion project. But since I just turned a year older yesterday, I decided to write an entry about what I have learned in the past years and of course, my passion project (which I hope you will all support).
So where do I begin? Hmmm so let’s probably rewind to 2016-2017. That was the time when I was going through the toughest obstacle in my life. I actually wrote about my soul searching trip before so you may check it out somewhere in this website as well. I don’t mean to be overly dramatic but if I were to describe myself during that time, I felt like a rat being drowned in a tub full of water—helpless, full of sorrow, and stuck.
But because of God’s love, I was able to surpass that. I picked myself up and became more resilient. Well, it took some time to have that glow and that smile on my face back—but it happened all in God’s time.
Fast forward to 2018 and 2019, so many blessings and opportunities happened. I started writing for a newspaper, I continued with my MBA, I took a new role at work, so many new projects left and right and the list goes on. Of course, life isn’t a bed of roses and there will always be challenges.
So here is what I have learned in my 20 plus years of existence (I won’t disclose how old I am haha):
- We all go through problems in life. It will never stop. What’s important is that we choose to do what’s right and choose our battles wisely. Choosing to do the right thing may sometimes hurt and that’s okay. The answers we seek may never appear and that’s okay too. What matters is that we know in our hearts that we did our best and gave it our all.
- There comes a point in our lives when we choose who stays and who goes. There’s a quote that says, “I’d rather have a few close friends than a million acquaintances.” We should surround ourselves with positive people who will wish us well, support us and be there for us even when we fall.
- “In the end, only three things matter: how much we loved, how much we lived, and how gracefully we let go.” We have so many dreams, aspirations, wants, and etc. There are times when we don’t get what we want even if we worked hard for it. There are times when we question God and ask him why he gave us so much pain and hurt. Like for example, I applied for a program and didn’t get in, I had this new opportunity that didn’t push through, and the like. It’s all about acceptance. We have to accept our rejections and failures. And then what? Forever sulk or do something about it? We should never let these rejections and failures stop us from reaching our goals. My professor from graduate school told our class once, “I hope you fail.” Isn’t that weird for someone to say? But I get why he had to say that. Because failure makes us more resilient and it tests our character. When we surpass our problems and get new ones, we are able to handle it better. It becomes chicken.
- My professor discussed ethical leadership to our class before. He shared the famous tripod that represents three important things: CHARACTER, COMPETENCE, AND PURPOSE. First, character. There are two types of values—good and bad. Our choices are based on who we are as a person which is why character is very important. Imagine if we had integrity, accountability, malasakit, and the like? We would earn more points in heaven (HAHA), we would be able to create a difference, influence people to strive for greatness, pay it forward, forgive, love even more and etc. But imagine also if we have dishonesty, anger, jealousy, regret, and the like? We would definitely hurt people, we won’t have peace in our hearts, we will never learn to forgive and the like. SO MY FRIENDS, DO GOOD ALWAYS BECAUSE IT’S THE RIGHT THING TO DO. Second, there’s competence such as decision making, conflict management, knowledge, and the like. We can’t just have a good character without being competent. It goes hand in hand. We always have to look for ways to grow and learn—basically feed our brains. Lastly, purpose. What are we living for? What are we made to do? For sure, we all have our reasons for living and it differs per person. As for me, I’ve always wanted to inspire people through writing and teaching. That’s why I created a website and I teach for my company. So friends, we all have a purpose in life so figure that out.
- I would repeat this a million times, “we cannot change other people or even control what they say or do. The only thing we have control of is ourselves.” This is the hardest to swallow. We want people to treat us a certain way, we want our enemies to realize they are wrong, and the list goes on. BUT WE CANNOT. That’s how life is. It can be unfair. But we can control how we react to certain things and we can choose what should or should not affect us. So friends, if ever people hurt you along the way, always remember that there is a God that loves. Love yourselves even more and always keep going. Don’t let people hinder you to strive for greatness.
Was that too deep? Apologies for being so sentimental I just can’t believe I am in my late 20’s. I hope this entry inspires you and makes you realize how blessed you are right now.
I am truly grateful for all the blessings I have received in the past years. I also truly am grateful for the pain, obstacles, and problems that I have been through. I definitely don’t want to go through it again but it really made me more resilient and forgiving. I have been changed for good.
So guys, to give back to the universe, to God and people who have changed my life, I came up with a passion project. I created a website called startupspotlight.net because I want to inspire young Filipinos to become entrepreneurs. I also want to show the world what Filipinos can do. I know that it’s just a website or an online publication but I want to help these entrepreneurs make their businesses grow. So please like the facebook page (startupspotlightph), follow the Instagram (startupspotlightph), and read the entries. Some were actually published in the Manila Times but I plan on featuring more. Let’s support our local businesses and startups!
A year older and (hopefully) a year wiser… Big thanks to the Lord Almighty for never leaving my side. To my readers, apologies for not updating this as much but thank you for all the support throughout the years. To my family, friends, and all my loved ones, thanks for always pushing me and for letting me know that impossible is nothing (sorry for that line haha). So guys, I promise to update this from time to time but please check my other website. THANKS SO MUCH!